"I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth." 3 John 1:4

Sunday, July 6, 2008

An Open Letter to My Son-in-Law, Jared

Dear Jared,

I hope I don't embarrass you too much by publishing this letter for the world (or the tens of people who read my blog) to see. But this is something I feel like sharing because otherwise, many people may never know what an exceptional person you are.

Each year that you are married to our precious daughter, Melanie, I love you more. I think many people know the "funny Jared" and several know the "hard-working Jared"...but I'm not sure how many know the "sensitive Jared".

It's this side of you...the sensitive side...that I want to celebrate in this letter.

And so, I love and appreciate you for :

  • Loving our daughter and our grandchildren with all your heart
  • Wanting to be with family on holidays and regular days and embracing our extended family as your own
  • Giving Steve a precious letter in the airport before we left for Honduras (He still keeps that letter in his Bible and reads it often)
  • Being so emotional when little Madeline was born. You seemed to be overcome by the awesomeness of bringing a child into the world
  • Handing little Noah to your dad minutes after he was born and saying, through tears, "I'd like you to meet your grandson, Noah Murl Smalling..."
  • Agreeing with Melanie when she wanted to be induced with Jack so that Steve "Poppi" could be in the country for the birth
  • Holding the tiny bundle that was Ruby to your chest, with your face buried in her blanket, crying because your heart was breaking.
  • Embracing the fact that she would always be a part of the family
  • Allowing Melanie to grieve for as long as it took...
  • Being strong for your family when you, too, were grieving...
  • Being Melanie's "focal point" when she was in labor with Luke...The way you were talking to her constantly in a sweet, soothing voice and she, eyes closed, listening and following, made it seem you were experiencing the contractions along with her
  • Taking the first week off work after Melanie and Luke came home from the hospital to take care of everything
  • Putting your family before your job...

Those are just a few reasons why I am thankful to have you in our family. May God richly bless you as you continue to lead your family to heaven.




Melanie said...

I must say I agree wholeheartedly. I need to print this out and keep it somewhere that I can see it on those "rare" days when I get annoyed at him :) I don't even think I knew about the letter to Dad. I am so thankful for the man that he is and for the man that he is constantly striving to be. Thank you for appreciating him, too!

Erin Christine said...

that is so sweet! i know that Jared is also blessed to have a mom-in-law like you! i love gettig on here and seeing what new and then on to melanie's! i truely and fully understand what it is like to be torn between 2 countries. i always thought how wonderful it would be if warping was invented! anyway, hope all is well. take care. erin

Midwest Mommy said...

This is so sweet. What a lucky guy to have you as a mother in law!